Earning the Right to Coach
Why should anyone be coached by you? How many people would willingly choose you as their coach? When you look at the people with whom you interact on a daily basis, how many attribute their success to your influence?
As managers, we do not automatically assume the mantle of coach. Hiring, planning, performance management, and other such tasks naturally accompany the role of manager – but coaching does not. The title of Leader Coach is one we must earn. It requires two choices: The first is our decision to invest our time and energy to help another create significant personal change; the second is the choice this person makes to include us in his change efforts. Read on…
A Perfect Partnership: The High Performance Coaching Relationship
Imagine that tomorrow you meet someone who you will readily welcome into your life.
This is a very special kind of person, one who looks right past the superficial parts of your personality, your typical defenses, the insecurities you’ve worked so hard to mask, and the failings you’re ashamed to admit, let alone accept. Imagine that this new person sees all of you and simply accepts you for who you really are – a unique individual who wants to be special, make a contribution, and use their most precious talents to make a real difference in the lives of others. At the same time, this new person also sees how your personality, defenses, and insecurities get in the way of you performing at your best. This person knows when you subtly sell yourself short in your work and career, in pursuing your passions and dreams, and in your expectations for the future. And she won’t let you get away with it any more. She cares about you too much to let this continue. Read on…
Dangerous Conversations: Coaching for Exceptional Performance
How often do you engage in the kind of conversation that stimulates others to change their performance? First, reflect on the following: How many conversations do you have during an average day? 30, 50, 100? How many of these simply function as social lubricants, helping you slide through the day without having to address the real and important issues you face? How many of these conversations really matter? Read on…